Psychology and Good Thinking

                       Positive Thinking, Prayer, Prophecy and Reality

Positive Thinking is a very powerful and essential tool
Or orientation for success.
This principle is the basis
For many self-help books, motivational teachers,
And spiritual teachings.

 Which direction is positive?
A person may have a scheme to get what he wants
Even with negative consequences for others,
And himself, though he doesn’t see it.
A friend may warn him of this.
He says, “Stop thinking negative, think positive!”
Each side thinks its point of view is positive,
And anyone who disagrees is negative.
Love is the positive direction.

A person may be ill and dying.
There are many factors involved,
Including one’s attitude.
There are many documented stories
Of people near death
Who recover miraculously
With no medical explanation.
In many such cases a positive attitude
And will to live made the difference.

Most people assume that death is the end of life,
And therefore negative.
However, Life is consciousness,
And continues after the death of the body.
For most of us death will be a very positive experience.

Prayer is a strong form of positive thinking
Directed to God, Jesus, or some Saint.
It’s more about asking for guidance.
Than about asking for favors.
Your prayer is your heart’s desire
More than your words.

Prayer focuses one’s desires and intentions.
This is a natural principle
That can help manifestation
If it’s within divine order.
Negative or evil desires
Can manifest for our learning.

We were created with all the positive qualities,
and the potential for the negative.
It’s up to us to choose.

Prayer for others does not help,
It’s up to the others’ karma,
Desires, circumstances and chance.
(See “Free Will, Karma, Circumstances and Chance”)
If they have led a self-destructive life
Or it’s their time to go,
Your prayers do not change that.

There have been many prophecies
About destruction of past and present civilizations.
Prophets have always been hated, ignored, persecuted
And executed for their negative predictions.
Jesus, his apostles, disciples, and many others
Throughout history have met such a fate.

Many believe that these “negative” prophecies
Could come true unless we change our ways.
Those into positive thinking believe that we will.
Many attempt to be a positive influence.
They often don’t even want to discuss
Such prophecies as negative thinking.
Positive change and action
Can cancel the negative prophecies.

The reality of this world
Is negative beyond imagination.
The suffering, abuse, cruelty, and violence
Of human relationships from families to nations
Is an abomination
That we’re used to as normal.
The news reports are just the tip of the iceberg.

A strong military will never bring peace.
This road can only lead to more wars
On a greater scale or total destruction.

What is needed is a change of heart
To see our “enemies”
As brothers and sisters in God
That we want to help.
Such change is not likely to happen
On a large enough scale to bring peace.

Some think supporting the military
Is positive thinking.
It’s negative thinking.
Love and peace
Is positive thinking.

The world is like a community
That’s mostly on fire.
Some of us live in nice neighborhoods
That are not on fire.
We barely know how bad the fire is,
And don’t believe it will affect us,
So they carry on enjoying themselves
Thinking positive.
Sometimes positive thinking can blind us
From seeing negative realities.
The fire is about to engulf the entire community.

It’s time to be prepared,
To be as self-reliant as possible,
And cooperate with others
For mutual benefit.

Positive attitudes and actions
Can do more than prayer
To help change our reality, that of others
And the world around us.

                           

Inspirational Insights – Positive Attitudes

  1.  We need to love and accept ourselves exactly as we are.

 2.  If we’re humble enough to know
       That we have a lot to learn
       We probably will.

 3.  Rather than dwell on what’s bad
       Focus on what’s good.

 4.  No matter how bad it is
      Don’t make it worse
      With a negative reaction.
      Make the best of it.

 5.  The longer we hold on to our old ways,
      Resisting what Life is teaching us,
      The longer it takes
      To get what we really want,
      And what we really want is love.

 6. A Positive Attitude

     When problems arise
     Try to stay calm.
     Don’t get upset or depressed.
     It only clouds our vision.
     Don’t imagine the worst,
     Or it may lead to that,
     When a more positive view
     Could lead to the best.

7.  Positive thinking is good,
     And my overcome negative thoughts
     For a better result.
     Sometimes contrary facts
     Must be respected
     To be realistic.

8.  Most of our problems
     Are the weight of our egos
     Working against us,
     Depressing our spirits
     And clouding our judgment.

9.  Don’t let politics and religion
     And other people’s business
     That doesn’t really affect you
     Come between family and friends.

 10.   What we say about others
         For better or worse,
         Says more about ourselves
         Than it does about them.

 11.   Be not intimidated
         By the ignorance of others,
         And respect their right
         To be so.

 12.   To sacrifice something small
         For that which is great
         Is no sacrifice at all.

 13.   A father and mother’s love
         Is never really lost
         And neither is that
         Of a sibling or child.

 14.   Sometimes the tears must flow
         To let the hurting go.
         So let it go
         And it will flow.

 15.   Love gets our egos out of the way
         So we can have a better day.

 16.   Whatever the problem
         Love is the answer.

         

                              Acceptance

When we say things like
“This shouldn’t have happened”.
“You should not have ….”
“I’m against what happened”.
We’re not accepting
What has already happened.

Whatever we don’t like:
The sooner we accept it,
The sooner it can change.
The longer we fight it,
The longer it lasts.
What we resist persists.

                                          

                             Love, Fear and Greed

Love is the most important thing in life.
It’s the essence of God in our life
Whether we understand that or not.

Fear comes from a lack of love.
It’s a very negative and hurtful emotion,
And leads to all kinds of misguided behaviors.

Greed is one of many attempts
To find a substitute for love.
No matter how “successful” the greed,
It’s never enough to fill the empty feeling inside.

 Only love is what we really want the most.                                                                           

                       

         Nobody’s Perfect

We should accept our imperfections,
As we accept ourselves and others.
Trying to be false ideas of “perfect”
Frustrates ourselves,
And irritates others.

Sometimes what seems imperfect
From one point of view
May actually be perfect
From another point of view.

  

                                   Openness in Communication

We meet so many people
We can’t be open to them all.
For some, it’s just a smile
Some we see more often,
And pretend that they’re not there.
Or just say “Hello” year after year.

Some could be friends
If we want them to be,
But we keep the door closed.
In locking them out,
We lock ourselves in,
And never find out
What they‘re all about.
They may have gifts
They would give to us,
But we’ll never find out
While we keep them away.

What does it cost
To open the door?
We might make a friend
And gain so much more.
And those in our family
Each locked in their rooms
Are acting like strangers.
Something tells us
This couldn’t be right.

We’re afraid of the problems
Behind every door.
We could open it up
But there might be a fight.

Could we knock on their door
With love in our heart?
Bring out the goodness in them
And make a new start.

 

                                                    Walls

Most of us build walls around us
To keep the others out.
Some are too proud to let them in.
Or think they’re just too smart.
Others have been hurt and abused,
Some are shy and cry alone,
There’s walls of words,
Or sometimes silence,
Some wall are just distractions.
Some walls seem hard
And others soft.
Some are low
And others high.

No matter what the reason is
The walls are prisons
That keep us in.

We think they keep the pain at bay,
But they only make it worse
And keep what’s good away.

                                                                               

                                      Over-Talkers

Some people talk on and on
Whether or not they have something
Interesting to say,
Or that others want to hear.
Their ego’s on a roll
And they can’t or won’t stop.

Most others are polite
And let them go on and on.
But there’s an unseen problem.
When they monopolize the conversation
It becomes a monologue.
Others may have something to say,
That may be important to hear,
But never get the chance.

It’s a form of verbal dominance
That should only go so far
And then someone should interrupt,
Or change the subject.

Sometimes they’re just lonely
And need to talk to someone.
We can be polite and listen.

                                             

                                 Judgmental and Sympathetic Points of View

 It’s easy to be critical
Of the behavior of others.
There are both the mistakes they make,
And the ones we think they make.
This can be a judgmental point of view.
If we knew their personal stories,
The hardships they’ve been through,
We’d be more sympathetic.

We tend to have a more sympathetic
Point of view of ourselves.
Let’s try to have the same for others too.

                                                                    

                                                    Criticism

Criticism should be avoided
Except when requested.
It makes others defensive
So it’s not effective
And creates bad reactions.
It’s not our job to correct them.
Life will do that itself.

Criticism of the past
Is especially useless
Since it can’t be changed.
Hopefully they’ll be open
To good advice for the future.

Guidance for children
May be criticism.
It’s okay when given in love
And not anger.
Guidance is right from the parents,
Guardians, relatives,
Some adults and teachers too.
                                     

                                            Arguments

Nobody ever wins an argument.
Each becomes defensive
And will not concede
The other’s point of view.

Sometimes one seems to win
By dominance or force.
But the other is resentful,
And the argument goes on.
Both feel hurt or angry,
So no one really wins.

A calm discussion has more hope.
Express that you understand
The other’s point of view.
And perhaps he’ll say
He understands yours too.
Seek some kind of compromise
To make a nicer day.
This will turn out better
Than getting your own way.

 

                       Our Family and Friends Are Mirrors

Most of our problems
That we don’t see in ourselves
Are obvious to others.
We should ask them,
What they see in us,
And listen to what they say.

It’s like looking into a mirror.
If they told us the truth
We might not believe it.
Is it time for a change?

Reflect once more on what they see and say.
Is it possible they’re right?

If we still think they’re wrong,
There’s no need to react.
They may project their own faults
On what they see in us.
So just let it be.

                                                           

                                                    Finding Our Way

Who is closer to finding their way?
Those who are lost and confused,
Or those who are lost,
And think they know what they’re doing?
Those who are lost and confused
Are more open to receiving direction.
It’s better to be confused
Than definitely mistaken.

It’s a wise person who knows
What he doesn’t know,
And so is open to learning more.

Our whole world is lost
And doesn’t know it.
This can only lead to trouble.
If we admit that we’re lost
We can start finding our way.

  

                Guilt

When we’ve done something wrong
Our conscience tells us,
And we may feel guilty.
We should do whatever we can
To correct the situation.
We may need to apologize,
And do better in the future.
That should be the end of it.
Once the guilt is resolved
It should be released
And not carried any further.

There’s another kind of guilty feeling.
Someone may be accused of doing wrong,
Or thinks they’ve done something wrong
And continues thinking they’re guilty
Even though they’re not.

But this kind of guilty feeling may never end.
It’s built into our subconscious.
We drag it around like a weight
That makes us feel bad
And undermines ourselves.
This kind of guilty feeling is useless.
It needs to be discovered and released.

Those who’ve been sexually molested
Usually feel guilty even though they’re not.
The victim is innocent and must know it.
The one who molested them is guilty.
Keep it a secret,
And often take on a different personality.
This secondary personality
Is created to avoid the false guilt.
The false guilt needs to be recognized and released
To return to the original personality.

 

           The Power of an Apology

1.  It teaches you to be selfless by caring for the other one’s feelings.
2.  It helps you to resolve issues quickly.
3.  Apologizing helps the other one to heal and forgive you faster.
4.  It demonstrates that you take responsibility for your wrongs.
5.  It brings down the wall, making you both less defensive.
6. It allows you both to move past the issue quickly and get back to building your love.
7.  When you apologize when wrong you teach the other one to apologize when they are wrong.
8.  It prevents issues from escalating.
9.  It minimizes the need for the silent treatment.  Most people give the silent treatment because they are waiting
for an apology.
10. It shows that you value the relationsip more than your ego.

Don’t let your ego get in the way of a healthy relationship and friendship.
Apologize when there are issues and you make a mistake.
by Mark Eric Peters

                                                       

                                              Fear

In God’s Reality
There is no fear.

With God’s Love in our heart
There’s no need for fear,
No matter how it seems.

Holding fears for years,
Can eventually produce
Just what it is that we fear.
Let the fear go,
And things will get better.

 

                                       Suffering

Some suffering we create ourselves.
We must let go of anger,
Resentments and all,
And stop making ourselves suffer.

We suffer from lack of what we need
Some is real, and some is greed.
Suffering breaks down our egos and walls
So we can better learn and grow.

Some suffering is caused
By forces we don’t understand
Beyond this life.

When we’re with God,
Then we’ll see
That there’s nothing we need,
And suffer no more.

                Buddhism On Suffering

Buddhism is based on The Four Nobel Truths:
1. Life is suffering.
2. Suffering is caused by craving and aversion.
3. Suffering can be overcome, and true happiness attained.
4. The Nobel Eight Fold Path leads to the end of all suffering.
The Nobel Eight Fold Path:
1. Right Speech – one speaks in a non-hurtful, not exaggerated truthful way.
2. Right Actions – avoid actions that would do harm.
3. Right Livelihood – one’s job or career does not hurt anyone directly or indirectly.
4. Right Effort/Exercise – make efforts to improve.
5. Right Mindfulness/Awareness – mental ability to see things for what they are with clear consciousness.
6. Right Concentration – being aware of the present reality within oneself.
7. Right Thoughts – change in the pattern of thinking.
8. Right Understanding – understanding reality as it is, not just as it appears to be.

 

                                              Depression

Sometimes depression

Is anger turned inward.
Let the anger go,
And depression goes with it.

Sometimes we’re disturbed
From deep down inside.
We think we don’t know what it is
But we may if we’re willing to look.

It may be some old hurt
That doesn’t matter now,
But we’re still reacting
Like we did when it hurt.

We’ve lived through some nightmares
That still haunt us now.
We can’t change the past,
But we can change ourselves now.

The depression may drive us
To drinking and drugs.
Or whatever it takes
To distract us from pain.
The pain’s an illusion
Because it’s the past.

We often can’t find
What we want in this world.
The best we can do
Is change from inside.

Without being aware of it
We have a longing for God.
We miss the real God,
Not the one we imagine.

This lack of the fullness
Of God in our life
Seems like depression.

What makes us happy
Is not really out there.
It’s our own state of mind.

A good way of thinking
Is more likely to bring
What is that we want.
Then again, it may not.
But we’re still better off
With a good state of mind.

 

                                                 Addictions

There are all kinds of addictions:
Liquor, drugs and sex,
Gambling, shopping and more.
Taken to excess,
Unable to stop.

It’s like trying to fill a deep bucket
With a hole you can’t see.
There’s never enough.
The hole at the bottom
Needs to be fixed.
We must go very deep
Just to find it.

The hole’s often caused by old hurts,
Anger, resentment and rage.
The hurt is so old,
It mattes no more
And anger must go away with it.

Whatever it is,
It’s under the surface.
It’s deeper than symptoms,
The cause must be cured.

Some addictions get in our blood
And need to be cleansed.
One way or another
We’re going to be sick
Before we get better.

We often think
We can just slow down
Or quit whenever we want.

We think we can stop on our own
But sometimes we can’t.
Sometimes it seems to be cured
But the habit remains.
We know that it’s wrong
But can’t stop ourselves.
And desires take over.

We tend to ignore our rational mind
That must control desires at times.

It’s important to stay clear
Of the people and places
That lead us astray.

We need some help
To stay on the right track.
Perhaps some good friends
Are just what we need.

                                                                                           

                                                Feeling Like Dying

The lessons we need to learn the most
Are often the most difficult for us.
All else may come to a stop,
And we may feel like dying.
Some part of us
Some misconception
May need to “die”
So that we can go on living.

                                                                                                 

                                            Suicide

Many believe that suicide is a “sin”
And that the person will go to Hell.
This is not necessarily true,
Except in some cases.

We’re here in this Earth school
To learn something and grow.
If a person commits suicide
Before he learns what he needs,
He’d most likely come back
To try once again.

 For some who can’t learn now,
This could be a way out
But not recommended.

 Some suicides are from anger,
Despair and hopelessness.
These people would probably go
To some place that reflects
Their own state of mind
To learn before they return.

Some suicides are cruel,
Such as a murder/suicide
Or suicide bombers.
These may go to a place we’d call Hell.

An unsuccessful attempt
Could leave one injured for life.
This is a risk to consider.

None of this is meant
To encourage suicide.
But to relieve the fear
That it must be a “sin”
And a ticket to Hell
Though it could be.

 

                                                          Ego Defense Mechanisms

Our ego is our outer false self-conception.
We don’t want our ego threatened.
Different points of view
May seem to threaten our ego.
The defense mechanism is our way
To avoid seeing
What we don’t want to see in ourselves.
There are many kinds of
Ego Defense Mechanisms:
Ignore it
Oppose or attack it
Defensive attitude
Make fun of it
Talk so much
that other’s points of view
 can’t get through
“I don’t want to talk about it.”
Accept stereotypes or common views
Prejudice
Irritation about bringing it up
Closed mind and feelings
False Pride
An “invisible wall” (See “Walls”)
Criticize it
Don’t believe it (without looking into it)
It’s not in the Bible
I already know about that

These defenses may seem
To work at the time.
However, it is more beneficial
To everyone to listen
To other’s points of view receptively,
Think about it,
And then make up our mind
If we want to.
It’s not so important
That we believe it or not,
But have exposed ourselves
To another’s point of view.

The ego wants to defend itself
Whether it’s right or wrong.
This leads to needless arguments,
Fights and wars.
By relaxing the ego,
The inner self
Begins to come out.
There’ll be more tolerance
And understanding for others.
As the ego is released,
We go beyond it to the truth.

 

Jealousy

In The Bible, it is said that God is a jealous God.  This is true.  Since God is the Source of our Creation, God should be our number one priority.  Anything else such as idols, money, power, sex, some religious practices and addictions are false gods of which God is jealous.  There is a place for money, power, sex and some other thing, but not above God.  God does not like to see us go away toward “the dark side”.  However, it is our free will.  Our experiences and karma will eventually teach us the foolishness of our ways.  This does not justify unreasonable jealousy for us.

There is a difference between being jealous over something that is ours and coveting something that is not ours.  One of the Ten Commandments advises us against coveting or being jealous over that which is not ours.  Being jealous over a neighbor’s property, wife or husband is not proper.

As a child is growing up, it’s natural for the child to become more interested in their friends than their parents.  The parents may feel jealous.  However, this feeling needs to be contained rather than imposing unreasonable restrictions on the child.

In an adult relationship, it’s common for the husband or wife to have other friends.  It’s common for each to even look at or flirt with others.  There’s a fine line between looking and flirting and inappropriate behavior that violates the exclusiveness of the relationship or marriage.  Sexual affairs certainly cross the line.  Jealousy in these cases is normal to protect that which is one’s own.  The question is what do you do about it?

Some people, especially women, don’t say anything for fear of breaking up the relationship or marriage.  In this case, one is likely to harbor resentment which is a conscious or subconscious anger and will express itself eventually.  This anger can be released with true and complete forgiveness.  However, if such behavior continues, the resentment builds and it becomes more difficult to forgive.

Some jealousy over a real problem can be a warning sign to correct the situation if handled correctly rather than with anger.  False jealousy over an imagined or innocent situation hurts the one who is jealous, the partner and the relationship as a whole.

Honesty is usually the best policy.  Open communication about the problem may help to bring an end to it.  Especially men are attracted to other women and may love their spouse just the same though she may not understand that.  An explosive argument does not solve the problem.  It only makes it worse, and the other tends to become defensive.  Sometimes the cheating spouse will say that he or she is sorry and won’t do it again.  They may cry and make up or break up.  However, repeat behavior is common.  How many times can one forgive and still believe the other?  When cheating seems to be a pattern that will not change, it may be time to leave the relationship or marriage even though there is still love.

Some people, especially men, may go to unreasonable extremes over perceived or real situations that make them jealous.  Negative actions are never justified.  If one is consumed with jealous rage, he or she might seek the help of a counselor, psychologist or anger management program.  If this does not help, it may be time to go different ways.  Ideally, one can release or contain unreasonably jealous feelings and the other can forgive so that the relationship or marriage can continue.

 

                                       Control and Self-Control                                                                                           

We react against controls
That are imposed upon us.
Then we react against all self-control.
It’s important to control ourselves
Where and when we need to
For our own good.

Sometimes when we lack self-control
Someone may try to help us.
We tend to resent it,
But could accept it
For our own good.
Sometimes a parent
Needs to control a child
For his or her own good.

Sometimes the law
Needs to control criminals
For the good of us all.

Sometimes others try to control us
For their own reasons.
At times, all we can do is accept it.
Other times our innocence
Will slip out of control.      

It’s usually wrong to control another
They have their free will from God.
And who are we to change that?
It’s bound to backfire
In ways never thought.

We can’t control what happens
Or what others say and do.
No one can make us angry
Unless we chose to be.

We can’t control others
They’ll only fight back.
We can only control
How we act and react.

                                                                          

Differences, Conflict, Opinions, Requests, Demands and Control

In any kind of relationship between people
There will be differences.
This often leads to conflict.
How is the conflict resolved?

Everyone’s entitled to their own opinions.
Each should try to understand the other’s.
Can a mutually agreeable compromise be found?
If one asserts his or her dominance,
There’ll be resentment and reaction later.

It’s fair to make requests,
But not demands.
The other is not obligated to fulfill requests.
In a request, one is willing to take “yes” or “no”
For an answer without anger or resentment.
If there is, it’s really a demand.

Demands violate the principle of Free Will.
God Created us with Free Will.
We have no right to take it away from another.
Demands may be communicated in words,
A tone of voice, or a threat.
Demands do not have to be obeyed,
Especially those contrary to our conscience.
We have the free will
Not to put ourselves in situations
Such as the military where it is expected
To obey demands and commands.

We may be in some situations
Such as an abusive relationship
Where it’s better to obey a demand
Than take the consequences
Until things improve or there’s a change.

It’s important to control ourselves.
(See  “Control and Self-Control”)
We do not have the right to control others
Except in our home, on our land, in our car,
Our office or place of business.

If the attempted control seems unfair
One is always free to leave,
Except for children
Who should be controlled with love, not anger.
(See  “Children”)

Miscontrol is selfish or serves one’s purpose
Regardless of the others.
Miscontrol commonly leads to conflict or resentment.

Good control comes from the heart,
Considers everyone’s opinions, preferences, requests, and objections.
It’s flexible to change as needed.

 

Anger: Expression, Repression and Release
Anger and Mental and Physical Health

Anger disrupts our peace of mind.
It puts us in a bad mood.
It hurts more to hold on to it
Than to let it go which feels better.

Our true selves are only love.
This is sanity.
To the degree that we have fallen away from this,
We have become insane.
The word “mad” means both angry and insane.
Anger is a form of insanity.

No one can make us angry.
We allow ourselves to become angry.
We may attract people who are angry
Or bring out our anger.
But in the end
It’s a reaction we chose.

Whatever it is,
It’s not worth getting angry about.
Anger hurts the one who is angry.
Anger is a lack of love.
What’s done is done.
Even if it has current effects,
No matter how bad it was,
Being angry only makes it worse

Anger is rooted in fear
That we will not get
What we need or want.

It takes faith
To believe in God
And to know there’s
A better life to come.
Such faith helps
Bring peace of mind now,
But is no guarantee
We will get what we need or want here.

Anger is like a weed.
It doesn’t do much good
To cut it off at the ground
Just to have it grow back.
Anger must be pulled out from its roots
Never to return again.

The negative behavior of others
Is really a cry for help.

Anger makes us blind.
Compassion clears our eyes.

When we express our anger
We often get an angry or defensive response,
Feelings are hurt,
Communication breaks down,
Walls are built up,
There’s trouble sooner or later,
Or violence erupts.

When we justify our anger
We make it permanent.
Keeping it hidden inside
Doesn’t mean it’s not there.
We may even keep it hidden from ourselves
In our subconscious and forget that it’s there.
Then it may become resentment
Which is much the same thing.

Repressed anger can lead to displaced anger
Towards other people, groups, or animals.
It may lead to guilt, anxiety and depression.
One may try to escape this through liquor or drugs,
Sex, food, obsessions, compulsions and addictions.
Anger towards others is self-destructive.
It’s anger towards oneself as well
And may become suicide.

Anger is a mental and emotional poison.
It releases chemicals in our body
Which makes us ill in many ways
Including headaches, high blood pressure, pain
Stress, muscle and nervous tension, inflammations, and worse.

To improve or cure these conditions
We must release the underlying
Negative judgments, resentments,
Blame and anger
Through forgiveness.

Forgiveness does not mean that you agree
That what was wrong,
Or what you thought was wrong,
Was right.
But that you let it go,
So that it doesn’t burn you up.

As we forgive others,
We forgive ourselves.

In a higher sense,
Forgiveness means
That God’s Love within us
Is more important than our anger.

When Jesus said, “Forgive them,
For they know not what they’re doing”
He was talking about more
Than what was happening to Him.
It was a lesson for us all.

                                                                                                                                                         

                                                           Don’t Hate Your Parents

One of the Ten Commandments
Is to honor your father and mother.

One might ask,
“Why should I?
They’ve done so much wrong,
Maybe abusive or cruel.
They don’t deserve
Any honor or respect.
In fact, I hate and resent them.
I’m not going to honor them
Because of some old Commandment.”
Honor them for your own good.

It’s easy to resent them for what they did.
But holding on to such resentments,
Puts us in a prison of anger,
That affects the rest of our lives
In ways we’d never imagine.

Holding on to that anger,
Makes us angry people.
Sometimes it comes out against others.
Even if we suppress it into our subconscious
And see ourselves in positive ways.
Others sense the anger
Even if we don’t.
They may avoid or reject us
And we never guess why.

The faults of our grandparents
Were passed on to our parents.
And their same faults
Passed on to us.
And then some day
We become an angry parent.
When does it ever end?
It doesn’t,
Unless we put an end to it.

                              “Forgive them for they know not what they’re doing”

These are Jesus’ famous last words.
It’s a lesson and message for us all.
To forgive is not to admit
That the ones who wronged us were right.
To forgive is just to let go
Of the anger that’s burning us up
So we can get on with our lives in peace.
Forgiving them can help heal old wounds,
And good things might happen between you.

Because of serious family problems
Our parents may treat us like they don’t care.
They may tell others they love us very much.
We’d be surprised if we heard this.
A parent’s love is always there
No matter how much they hide it.

 After they die,
We may wish we had told them
That we really love them
In spite of all the problems.
And they may wish
They had told us the same.
Do it before it’s too late.

                                                       

                                                   Growing From Adversity

The Truth of Life is deep within us.
Many layers of self-deception,
Fear, anger and darkness.
Blinding us from knowing
What Life is all about.

The things that seem most tragic
Sometimes make us grow.
We’re changed one way or another.
From these hardships
We can learn and grow.

After a disaster,
Many help each other
Becoming better people for it.

Some are looters
And get some things,
But no better for it.

When crisis overcomes us
It seems we can’t get up.
But those who rise above it
Are stronger and wiser from it.

Such things can destroy so much
But God’s Truth that’s deep within us.

 

                                           Building Character

When we close our hearts,
And treat each other
As if they didn’t matter,
We ruin our character,
Mislead ourselves,
And create more serious problems.

 An open heart
Builds a better character
And better results in the end.

 

                                    The Best Advice For Any Situation                                                                                                                   

Sit down and relax.
Take a few deep breaths.
Be as calm and centered as possible.

Pray or ask God, Jesus or whomever
For advice,
Not what you want,
And listen to your heart. 

Forgive the others.
Jesus would, and so can you.
Remember that they’ve been hurt.
To forgive is to release the anger
That clouds your eyes
And is burning you up.

Try to see the situation
From the other’s point of view.

What’s fair is more important
than what you want.
You may get your way,
And lose a friend
Or make an enemy
In the end.

A compromise may be needed
So that you can go in peace.